It is always an honor to be asked to be a bridesmaid, and I have always been delighted to be one. I am looking forward to being a bridesmaid in my cousin’s wedding this June, and it just so happens I will be twenty nine weeks pregnant at that time. It occurred to me there are a lot of ladies out there being asked to be a bridesmaid who are pregnant, or hoping to be by the time the wedding day arrives. Here are a few considerations and tips for you.
Will you be up for the Event?
Honestly, weddings can be exhausting for the bridal party, even if you aren’t expecting. As a bridesmaid you may be required to be on your feet for the majority of the wedding day. Unfortunately it is hard to anticipate how you’ll be feeling in the later stages of pregnancy, especially for first time moms. If you’ll in the last couple of months of pregnancy, it is completely understandable if you do not feel comfortable committing to be a bridesmaid.
Have an honest, open conversation with the bride.
Most brides will be happy to have a pregnant bridesmaid. In fact, I was thrilled when I found out my sister-in-law would be pregnant at my own wedding. She was an adorable bridesmaid! However, if you’re pregnant, or hoping to be soon, it may be good to have a frank discussion with the bride before agreeing to be their bridesmaid. It's impossible to know the future, and surprises do happen. For example, if baby comes earlier than expected, will the bride be okay if you need to step down at the last minute? If the bride has any questions or concerns now is the best time to talk about it.
If you’ve been asked to be a bridesmaid at a destination wedding, you may want to review guidelines with your doctor and airline if you’ll be nearing the birth. Most airlines will allow you to travel up to 36 weeks, which may be later than you’d expect. Still, it’s good to check in with your health care provider to hear their recommendation.
More and more designers are carrying a few maternity options, making it much easier for pregnant bridesmaids to select a dress. Let’s say the bride chooses a designer that does not carry maternity dresses, or the bride would like the bridesmaids in the same dress. Not to worry! As long as you’re able to find a dress with a higher waistline you’ll be fine, and there are tons of those dresses out there. The important thing to remember is that you’ll need to purchase your gown one to two sizes larger than normal, depending on how far along you’ll be. It is always easier to take dresses in if need be, so it’s much better to order larger and take the dress in than to try and let it out.
Some Day-Of Tips:
- Stay hydrated!
- Keep a couple of little snacks handy. You may want to keep something in your clutch, or give them to your partner and ask them to check in with you from time to time to see if you need anything.
- Wear Flats
- Sit down whenever you get the chance
- If you aren’t feel well, speak up at any time. For instance, if you’re feeling a little dizzy make sure you say something. Believe me, nobody wants you fainting!
- Have a few tissues handy, especially for the ceremony. If you're anything like me, pregnancy hormones may make you a little more emotional than usual.